Sharing his story with the “True Off My Chest” subreddit on November 13, user u/Account_throwaway said he’d fallen out with his girlfriend over the outfit choice—a “lacy white floor-length” gown—and refused to go to the ceremony with her.

The girlfriend thought the dress was acceptable because “her brother is gay and there was no bride at the wedding,” but the poster decided to fake COVID to avoid any embarrassment.

It turns out, he was right, as his girlfriend’s dress did cause drama. Although he’d “dodged a bullet,” fellow Redditors encouraged the man to end the relationship, calling the incident a “red flag.”

‘Rude’

Holly Poulter, creative director of Revelry Events—a wedding-planning business based in London, U.K.— said that wearing white to a wedding is always a no, even if there’s no bride in sight.

“It’s one of those traditions that sticks - that it’s considered rude to wear white to a wedding when you are not the one getting married,” she told Newsweek.

“The loophole for this guest seems to be that she assumed that it would be fine, but I find it a little hard to believe that she wouldn’t have known it would cause controversy.

“Even if the couple are alright with it, all the other guests would be whispering and wondering, and that’s not the kind of mood guests should want to create. If the dress itself wasn’t taking enough attention away from the happy couple, it would be the chatter surrounding it.”

‘So Inappropriate’

In his post, u/Account_throwaway said he was planning to accompany his girlfriend to her older brother’s wedding. However, she decided to change her outfit at the last minute, opting for a lacy white floor-length gown.

“I asked her if it was really appropriate to wear a dress like to someone else’s wedding but she said it’s not a wedding dress,” he wrote.

“It sure looked like one but she said it was only $150. I decided not to go because she was being so inappropriate and I thought it would be too embarrassing.

“I messaged her cousin that I might have been exposed to covid and couldn’t come because I didn’t want to make drama.”

The poster’s concerns were valid, as his girlfriend’s dress did cause issues, with her parents stepping in to save the day.

“I also found out she got there later than she was supposed to and she started to try to walk up the aisle to her seat after everyone else was sitting in their seats and the wedding was about to start,” he said.

“Her dad stopped her and she had to sit in the back. And her parents drove her back to her apartment so she could change dresses between the ceremony and the reception.

“Her parents made sure that the photographer didn’t take any pictures with her anywhere in them when she was wearing the white dress.”

Reddit users were shocked by the girlfriend’s behavior, with the post receiving over 15,000 upvotes and more than 700 comments.

“Red flag, red flag!!! Run now, run very far away,” said Trick_Designer2369.

“No way she unintentionally got there late. She is an attention seeker,” wrote NimueArt.

“Your girlfriend is, at best, a complete narcissist,” commented RDUppercut. “You should seriously consider what a future with her is going to look like.”

Mr_satan1987 agreed, writing: “That should be an ex-girlfriend of my boy. If she’s that crazy already I wouldn’t want to see what happens later.”

Users praised the girlfriend’s parents, but wondered if she had a habit of causing scenes at big events.

“They seemed very prepared for her shenanigans,” said Murky_Translator2295.

“One of many clues that this behavior is both expected of her and tactics are planned for the necessary interventions,” wrote georgiajl38.

“It’s the Little Princess syndrome,” commented paperwasp3. “She’s the only girl in the family and she’s not into sharing attention. OP did the right thing by not going with her.”

While yggdarsillx warned: “If she can do that to family without hesitation, ask yourself what she is capable of doing to you if you don’t conform to her exact specifications.”

Newsweek has reached out to u/Account_throwaway for comment. We couldn’t verify the details of the case.