Published to the Reddit forum “Am I the A****** by u/snappie259, the post garnered more than 10,000 interactions. The poster said she told her coworker that the pub may not be an appropriate place to bring the baby and suggested they change plans to another day when a babysitter is available.

This upset u/snappie259’s coworker, who said she did not want to be separated from her child.

Insight From An Expert

Michelle Collins, the dean of the College of Nursing and Health at Loyola University New Orleans and a practicing midwife, told Newsweek that some new mothers may experience post-partum anxiety. Part of that involves a mother feeling anxious when they are separated from their baby.

“New parents can say that they don’t want to leave their baby with a trusted adult,” Collins said.

In addition to not wanting to be separated from their baby, Collins said she’s met with parents who are sleep deprived because they stay up all night making sure the baby is still breathing.

While it is common for many parents to want to avoid being separated from their baby, Collins said there is a point at which it may become a problem.

“Unless it interrupts daily life, there’s nothing wrong with having a connection to the child,” she said. “If it’s interfering with someone’s life, they may need to seek professional help.”

It may be difficult for friends and loved ones to truly understand the anxieties that a new parent is navigating through, but Collins said the best thing they can do is to be understanding and to offer their help.

AITA?

In her post, u/snappie259 said that she and her coworkers planned to go to a pub to get some drinks, and they invited another coworker who was out on maternity leave.

She said that her coworker was looking forward to seeing them and told them that she would be bringing her 5-month-old son.

u/snappie259 said it may not be a good idea to bring her son with her, but her coworker assured her it would be OK. She said she brings her son “everywhere” with her.

“Others join me and told her that it’s not the best environment for a child and if she does not have a babysitter we can change to [a] more suitable day,” u/snappie259 wrote in her post. “But she said she does not want to be separated from her baby and called us a*******.”

Reddit Reacts

Reddit users were split on the matter, some supportive of u/snappie259.

“I hate when people want to drag their baby everywhere,” a top comment read. “Not everything is a kid event. Sometimes we want non-baby events.”

“A pub is definitely not a place for an infant,” another Reddit user wrote. “An unfortunate sacrifice of being a parent is missing out on things because you need to take care of your kid.”

Others, however, were more critical.

“It’s [fine] if you don’t want a baby ruining the vibe of your event, but it’s not your place to tell this woman that it’s inappropriate for her to bring her baby to the venue,” a commenter wrote. “She’s an adult, she doesn’t need your input on her decisions as a parent.”

Another Reddit user echoed the sentiment and said u/snappie259’s coworker would know whether she and her baby would do well during the outing.

“Some babies do very well out and about,” they said.

Newsweek reached out to u/snappie259. We could not verify the details of this case.

Other Reddit users have taken to the popular forum to discuss their own conflicts, including a man who said he gave his girlfriend the silent treatment after her son spilled a drink in his car.

Another man shared that he refused to pay for his daughter’s wedding after she invited his estranged brother. One woman faced backlash for wanting to wear her own wedding gown to her sister-in-law’s wedding.